Bill Strong Denver Therapist here. I hope all of my readers had a great Easter weekend. For me it’s a time to celebrate life and the healthy growth available to us all.
I had an interesting interaction last weekend with someone I hadn’t seen in a few years. Because I’ve lost about 40 pounds since this person last saw me, he was a bit surprised by how I looked. I found his reaction to my weight loss interesting for several reasons and a reminder that having a “Solution Focus” isn’t always easy.
It’s pretty common for a person who hasn’t seen me in a while to ask “how did you loose the weight?” Other than going into just what program I followed, my response is generally something like: “I think weight loss is a pretty simple process. You have to move more and eat smarter”. This may sound a bit flippant, but it’s true. To loose weight we have to create a “caloric deficit”. If you don’t do that, the weight isn’t going anywhere. It’s simple physiology. To do it right you want to eat well and healthy, and move more in ways that increase your metabolism.
The person I’m referring by saying “Wait a second, for some of us losing weight isn’t easy!” To that I pointed out that I never said it was easy, it’s just not complicated. We then had an interesting conversation.
Whatever program you use, if it’s reasonable and you stick with it…it will work. Most of the programs now involve the grazing method, where we eat more meals but with smaller portions. This is what I did. Notice how I said “eat smarter” not “eat less”. These types of programs point out the if we put our body in starvation mode, our metabolism slows down and our body holds on to fat. That doesn’t work for long term weight loss.
During our civil discussion another person pointed out that it’s “easier” for men to loose weight then men. Although this is true in many cases, I did respond that it sure didn’t seem easy when I was going to the gym 5-6 times a week at 6:00 in the morning while changing my eating habit. It wasn’t easy at all and keeping it off takes effort as well.
I think that if we are focused on something being “easier” for others or “easy” in general, maybe we aren’t ready to commit to a significant change. It takes hard word and dedication. I believe in the research that says that indeed it is easier for men to change their body composition as we can build muscle mass (thereby changing our metabolism: go here to read more on metabolism) more quickly than women can. But again, it sure isn’t easy.
So…are you ready to change your body composition and lose weight? If so, find a program that you believe in and stick with it. Quit screwing around an follow it to the letter. Don’t do what I did 3 years ago and “kind of” follow the program, because that only kind of works!
Change your eating habits, never let yourself get hungry and work out. It took me 7 weeks of this to really see some changes…but once I did things really took off. Look for a long range plan that you can continue after meeting your goal. Do not look for quick fixes…those never last.
I’ll be writing more on this shortly, until then let’s get healthy!
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.” – Aristotle
William Strong, LCSW
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